Saturday, December 29, 2012
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Wednesday, October 3, 2012
|Keith McCants All-American Linebacker|
and first round draft pick
Thursday, September 20, 2012
|Notre Dame's Manti Te'o|
Photo: Associated Press
Monday, September 10, 2012
Photo by: Kevin C. Cox
Friday, August 31, 2012
Thursday, August 30, 2012
After careful consideration I've decided to take a closer look at the epidemic that is sweeping the country. More and more student-athletes are being suspended for "violating team rules," so I thought we would put the situation under a microscope to see what's really going on.
Monday, August 20, 2012
Friday, July 6, 2012
In my examination of our role as parents in the last excerpt/post I neglected to give you a little background about that piece. As much as it was supposed to spark a specific thought process where you as the reader is concerned, it was also a cathartic piece for me as I began my evolution in positive coaching philosophy and style.
The following is the preamble to the "Ten Pearls of Wisdom for Parents" from earlier in the week. As you read through, you will notice small discrepancies in the timeline because this was written so long ago, but all in all I'm sure you'll get the idea.
Cheers for a great weekend -
This was never more evident to me than with my own son. I've been his coach since he was old enough to walk. I've given him, in my opinion, some of the best coaching and advice that can be given to a young athlete. That said there's still a parent-child relationship to foster before athletics. Admittedly, I've always been tougher on my own children than other kids I've coached, but being involved with youth football this past season really opened my eyes.
This football season was my son's first year of tackle football. I had always heard how rabid parents were in youth football, but I thought it was a basic over-exaggeration (like most things concerning kids and sports where parents are concerned). I quickly found out how completely insane parents were about their children in youth football. Wow! Not to mention some of the egos involved within the administration of the league itself. Man, am I glad we waited to get involved! We were lucky enough to be on a team filled with good young men and coaches who actually liked and respected each other. Being a "consultant" I was shielded from most of the ignorance, but from time to time the head coach and I would have a chat about things that I only thought happened in collegiate or professional sports. At the end of the day it's just youth sports... not collegiate, not semi-pro, not professional - youth.
Hmmmmm... where is he going you ask? The answer is really simple. Parents (present company included), always want the best for their kids. However, we can all be a bit over the top when "critiquing" our young athlete's play. He or she may not be living up to whatever expectation we may have, but that's not for us to decide. Although they are children, and to a point they will always be children in our eyes, they need to take some responsibility and figure things out on there own. If it's important to them, they'll go for it. As parents and role models I believe it's our job to give them every opportunity to be successful... that's it. Present the opportunity, provide support and leave the rest to them.
I'm just sayin...
Tuesday, July 3, 2012
Today, I'm adding another excerpt from my book Relentless Wisdom. This excerpt is specifically for parents... myself included. I know we love our kids dearly, but here are a couple of things to consider the next time you attend a sporting event that your child participates in.
10. Youth sports is about the experience and having fun - Don't let them forget that.
Remember, behavior is modeled... what message are you sending them?
Thursday, June 28, 2012
I'm not sure if you guys are aware, but I'm an adjunct professor at Concordia University. The class I teach is called Sport Ethics. In this class we deal with all types of scenarios as they pertain to sports and some of the ethical situations that can arise. Today's post is a sample of what one of my students wrote about character education through youth sport. Enjoy!
Yes, behavior is modeled and kids act on what they see... the question then becomes what are you showing them... coach?
Monday, June 25, 2012
I thought I would take a moment to jot down a few personal thoughts about: Responsibility.
We usually equate responsibility with a job (i.e. "I'm responsible for X at my job.") Sometimes we equate responsibility with our families in that we're "responsible" for providing as adults and parents for our children. We may even be responsible in how we manage our finances and relationships with others.
Today, I want to explore another direction within the framework of responsibility's definition - and that is... simply taking responsiblity for ourselves.
Taking responsibility for ourselves may be the one thing that is most difficult about being an adult. Of course when things are great and everyone is lovingly smiling at you it can be awesome...but what about standing up when things aren't great... when they're dark and ugly? I mean the very thought of "taking responsibility" for something that's gone wrong connotes a type of punishment or as we hear incessantly -the "karma's a bitch" thought process.
Let me be the first to tell you, I've had some great moments and I've had some dark moments that I'm none too proud of. From legal issues to moral issues I've had it all in my 40 years. I'm sure you've had some moments like that too...maybe you feel as if you've let someone down or hurt someone so badly, but there's no way to take it back... yup, been there too. The immediate reaction is to grab the proverbial bat and begin to bash ourselves over the head with it... so much so that we work ourselves into a frenzied mess of mis-managed emotions. Ugh... not a good place to be, right?
Hey - people screw up! We sometimes make bad decisions...in fact sometimes things are just downright, god-awful... in these times I remember my Big Nana saying, "Baby, you're just standing too close to the mirror."
I didn't really understand it back in the day, but now that I'm older and have a few more life experiences under my belt I get it. She was simply saying if we stand really close to a mirror we see all the imperfections and blemishes... no one can ever be harder on us than we are on ourselves. But when we stand back and take a look at the entire picture...hmmmm... not too bad... guest I can put the bat away.
You may agree or you may think I'm completely off base as I've said before these are merely my thoughts and opinions... but the one thing we can agree on is that we ALL at some point have "stood too close to the mirror."
Thursday, June 14, 2012
Uh oh - my bad… wrong intro.
What's up good people? I hope you’ve all been enjoying health, fruitfulness of spirit and peace of mind since our last conversation.
Today we dive into our last topic in our Learning to Teach While Teaching Series: Trustworthiness.
While playing at Notre Dame, Coach Holtz would pose three questions to our team as we began each year. It was his way of reminding us that we had a responsibility to our teammates, our coaches, our community and ultimately to ourselves to be the best possible young men we could be. Not just on the football field or in the classroom, but in life.